Supporting Our Children Through Academic Setbacks

By Dr Masimba Mavaza

As academic results come out, let’s remember that some children are carrying quiet pain.

Those who didn’t meet expectations may look fine on the outside, but inside, they might be feeling ashamed, scared, and alone.

This isn’t the time for insults, comparisons, or “I told you so.” One set of results doesn’t define a child’s identity – it’s just a moment, not a life sentence. They failed an exam, not life itself.

Here are practical ways to support them:

1. Check in privately and gently. Ask, “How are you holding up?” rather than “What happened?

“2. Listen before you lecture. Let them talk without interruption.

3. Separate the child from the result. Say, “I love you. We will figure this out together.l

“4. Watch for warning signs like withdrawal, changes in appetite, or hopeless talk. Take these seriously.

5. Focus on the next step, not punishment. Explore re-sit options, tutoring, and help them build a plan.

6. Protect them from public shame. Keep results private and let them choose who knows.

7. Offer structure and hope. A simple routine, healthy meals, and encouragement can lift them back up.

Let’s make our homes places of comfort, wisdom, and practical help.

A child who feels safe at home recovers faster and comes back stronger.